What’s Going On in the Heads of Happily Married Couples
As someone who has been working with married couples since 2001 and married since 1995, I try to go back often to this baseline question: Why do some couples have a great marriage and others don’t? The answer to that question may surprise you, but I’m certain...
4 Christmas Tips For Married Couples
by Meygan Caston 'Tis the season to be jolly, fa la la la la, la la la…. Yeah right. The first 8 years of our marriage we spent every Christmas going back and forth between my parents, Casey’s parents, grandparents’ homes, friends ‘holiday parties to the point where...
How NOT to Make Things Worse When We’re Angry.
Who hasn’t gotten a little steamed at someone recently? Maybe it’s the way someone always leaves the cabinet doors open. Or the gas tank empty. Or interrupts you in the staff meeting. Or cuts you off in traffic. And then jump on any social media platform and you’ll...
How to Make the Most of Your Spouse’s Mistakes
Recently on vacation, I saw a young couple with two small kids leaving the beach. And as my southern grandmother used to say, “God love ‘em.” The kids looked to be around 2 and 4 and were covered in sand, as were the toys, chairs, beach bag, and parents. While the...
What To Do When Your Spouse Triggers You
When our spouse does something frustrating, hurtful, or wrong, it triggers us. And it’s so easy—even so natural—to react without thinking. And here’s the biggest problem: There can often be nothing between what triggers us and our reaction. Let me geek out for just a...
Stop It! Just Stop It! Your Spouse is Not the Source of All Your Marriage Problems
by Jackie Bledsoe My email inbox, as well as my Facebook messages box, gets filled from time to time with messages from people asking for help with their marriage problems. I’m always willing to help, as I believe God has equipped me to do just that. But sometimes...
Spend Less Time On Your Phone With These 6 Tips
by Meygan Caston I’m not sure about you, but . . . I don’t want to look back 20 years from now and know that I missed out on some of my life’s greatest memories, all because I was scrolling on my phone. Marriages today are suffering for many reasons, but cell phone...
Two Ways to Fire Up Passion in the Bedroom
"There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact" (1Corinthians 6:16). The loss of passionate romance is a common complaint in marriage. It seems that once the confetti and rice are swept away and the last of the wedding...
Cozy, Little Fires Everywhere: Small Ways to Fire Up Your Marriage
It's easy to focus on what is not working in our marriage, especially when we are trying to work on our marriage. I get it. The logic is sound: focus on your problems so you can fix them. But here’s the problem with focusing solely on what is not working: most of us...