by Ted Lowe | Jun 1, 2022 | Advice, Communication, Conflict
My natural inclination is to fix things. I grew up with a Dad who could fix the car, things around the house, anything. While I’m no Larry Lowe, I consider myself pretty handy. And my wife, Nancie, has always been very thankful for my home fix-it projects. But I also...
by Fierce Marriage | Feb 1, 2022 | Advice, Conflict
It seems natural to compare ourselves to others. As humans, we compare appearances, careers, marriages, and even spouses. Society encourages it. The chief problem of comparisons is that they’re usually based on romanticized half-truths. Most often when we compare, we...
by Ted Lowe | Dec 1, 2021 | Advice, Conflict, Faith
As someone who has been working with married couples since 2001 and married since 1995, I try to go back often to this baseline question: Why do some couples have a great marriage and others don’t? The answer to that question may surprise you, but I’m certain...
by Shaunti Feldhahn | Sep 1, 2021 | Advice, Communication, Conflict
Who hasn’t gotten a little steamed at someone recently? Maybe it’s the way someone always leaves the cabinet doors open. Or the gas tank empty. Or interrupts you in the staff meeting. Or cuts you off in traffic. And then jump on any social media platform and you’ll...
by Ted Lowe | Aug 1, 2021 | Advice, Communication, Conflict
Recently on vacation, I saw a young couple with two small kids leaving the beach. And as my southern grandmother used to say, “God love ‘em.” The kids looked to be around 2 and 4 and were covered in sand, as were the toys, chairs, beach bag, and parents. While the...
by Ted Lowe | Jun 1, 2021 | Communication, Conflict, Faith
When our spouse does something frustrating, hurtful, or wrong, it triggers us. And it’s so easy—even so natural—to react without thinking. And here’s the biggest problem: There can often be nothing between what triggers us and our reaction. Let me geek out for just a...