by Ted Lowe | Jun 1, 2022 | Advice, Communication, Conflict
My natural inclination is to fix things. I grew up with a Dad who could fix the car, things around the house, anything. While I’m no Larry Lowe, I consider myself pretty handy. And my wife, Nancie, has always been very thankful for my home fix-it projects. But I also...
by Ted Lowe | Dec 1, 2021 | Advice, Conflict, Faith
As someone who has been working with married couples since 2001 and married since 1995, I try to go back often to this baseline question: Why do some couples have a great marriage and others don’t? The answer to that question may surprise you, but I’m certain...
by Ted Lowe | Aug 1, 2021 | Advice, Communication, Conflict
Recently on vacation, I saw a young couple with two small kids leaving the beach. And as my southern grandmother used to say, “God love ‘em.” The kids looked to be around 2 and 4 and were covered in sand, as were the toys, chairs, beach bag, and parents. While the...
by Ted Lowe | Jun 1, 2021 | Communication, Conflict, Faith
When our spouse does something frustrating, hurtful, or wrong, it triggers us. And it’s so easy—even so natural—to react without thinking. And here’s the biggest problem: There can often be nothing between what triggers us and our reaction. Let me geek out for just a...
by Ted Lowe | Feb 10, 2021 | Communication, For Husbands, For Wives
It’s easy to focus on what is not working in our marriage, especially when we are trying to work on our marriage. I get it. The logic is sound: focus on your problems so you can fix them. But here’s the problem with focusing solely on what is not working: most...