by Ted Lowe | Jun 1, 2021 | Communication, Conflict, Faith
When our spouse does something frustrating, hurtful, or wrong, it triggers us. And it’s so easy—even so natural—to react without thinking. And here’s the biggest problem: There can often be nothing between what triggers us and our reaction. Let me geek out for just a...
by Ted Lowe | Feb 10, 2021 | Communication, For Husbands, For Wives
It’s easy to focus on what is not working in our marriage, especially when we are trying to work on our marriage. I get it. The logic is sound: focus on your problems so you can fix them. But here’s the problem with focusing solely on what is not working: most...
by Ted Lowe | Nov 1, 2020 | Holiday
Most people don’t read the introduction of articles anymore. Most of us go straight to the options that made us decide to read the article in the first place. But if you are reading this intro, then good for you. I mean that sincerely. You, obviously still have...
by Ted Lowe | Oct 23, 2020 | Advice
I hear over and over, “Marriage is so complicated.” After 20 years of working with couples, I say over and over, “Marriage is easier than you think.” Practice one of these tiny things for a week and let us know what happens. Be nice. Don’t say everything you...
by Ted Lowe | Mar 23, 2020 | Conflict
Be honest with yourself and me. This is the part of the article you don’t even read. Most of you, like me, skip straight to the parts that have a bold header. So I’ll spare you my unpacking of the tensions that are happening with the collision of marriage and...