It can come as a complete shock to learn that your spouse is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Your first reaction will probably be to wonder why she didn’t tell you about it a long time ago. But what you need to understand is how personal, private, and petrifying this secret is to a survivor.
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Things never go as planned. I have an idea of where I’d like my days to go, but the only predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. The vast majority of my life feels like I’m just along for the ride and the driver could care less where I think we should go. Why is life so hard to plan perfectly? Because things happen which we cannot control.
We can always think of excuses for why we shouldn’t date our spouse. But marriages that live with no sense of urgency in their passion and commitment to continuing to date one another or improve their relationship will eventually dry up.
Does the word marriage have too much baggage? It’s a word that means different things to different people. So what if we did an experiment for one week to use a word instead of marriage and see if it changes our perspective for the better.
Not only does touch cultivate deeper intimacy; it helps us communicate with each other on another level. It sustains and strengthens our connection. And it’s an essential part of a healthy, happy marriage. Tender touch conveys our love for one another, and creates a level of emotional safety that opens the door for deeper intimacy.
It happened to us, and it may have happened to you. I know that it hurts, but please hear this: you do not have to hurt alone. Your marriage will make it through the pain of this miscarriage. Your spouse is with you. It is imperative that you recognize the weight and necessity of choosing to have naked conversations through this messy circumstance.
When it comes to communication, technology and social media has undergone some revolutionary innovations and developments that make sure you are always connected with your loved ones, anywhere and anytime. There are several different ways you can use technology to strengthen your bond with your better half, and make sure they know you are thinking about them.
Don’t let fear keep you from thinking clearly. You won’t be able to hear when God is telling you to trust Him. When you give your fear to God you’ll be able to appreciate your blessings and live your life the way He intended.
I’m not sure who said it first, but when I heard this statement years ago, I agreed whole-heartedly: “Sexually, men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots.” Meaning, men are typically ready for sex almost immediately upon hearing the idea. Women enjoy sex, it just takes them a while to warm up to the idea.
For obvious reasons, pretty much every single one of us struggles in how to best communicate and resolve conflict. This plays out in marriage, friendships, work relationships, community, and parenting.
Literally speaking, I live with a handyman. So things do get fixed more than they used to. And living with my best friend has been of the most meaningful gifts I’ve known. But there are just some things he can’t, and our marriage can’t, fix.
Social media can also be a detriment for some marriages. In most cases, the constant phone checking can distract us from healthy conversations with our spouse. At worst, it can actually lead to relational temptation and even infidelity.
We ALL have some level of insecurity. Even “picture perfect” models often struggle with body issues. Being in perfect physical shape isn’t the solution (although better overall health can be a positive factor), the real issues are deeper than the surface.
Not talking about finances is one of the biggest money mistakes couples can make. So it’s important to learn how to talk about it. Here are 5 tips to help.
My wife and I have been married for 14 years and in that time, we’ve learned a lot about what it takes to be married. Its easier than everyone says it is. Here are seven things weve done that have made our marriage work really welland helped us have a lot of fun.
Through time I’ve come to realize it’s not just about what you say but also how you say it. And in a marriage or dating relationship, I’ve realized the mentality of needing to win is poison. It can and will destroy any relationship.
Problems in marriage present themselves like spiders. You feel their effects—their webs—but you can’t always pinpoint the source. You feel like something’s wrong, but you don’t know the cause or root of the problem.