Problems in marriage present themselves like spiders. You feel their effects—their webs—but you can’t always pinpoint the source. You feel like something’s wrong, but you don’t know the cause or root of the problem.
Texting is a very practical way to flirt with your spouse as well. Just because we’re married, doesn’t mean we should stop flirting with each other. Send the text when they’re at work, out with friends, at the gym, or sitting next to you on the couch!
True intimacy involves an exchange. Someone offers vulnerability, and the other honors that vulnerability. Then the other person reciprocates that vulnerability, creating a beautiful cycle. And that bond is exclusive and hidden; it’s only for the two people to behold and be a part of.
We can get so comfortable with our family that we let down our guards to be who we want to be. It’s easier that way. But it’s not always better that way. There is a way that is better, every single time. The number one person you need to protect your spouse from is you.
Not that long ago, men didn’t have to think about what to do for Valentine’s Day. We knew what we were supposed to do. We bought a card, candy, and flowers. Those gifts were as certain as putting up a tree at Christmas—it’s just what you do for that holiday. For many of us, being a Valentine’s generalist is no longer enough.
There are a lot of marriage statistics out there. Stats are great for providing a big picture context. But they can also misrepresent marriages. Because each individual marriage is more than just another number. Every marriage is unique. Every marriage is a story.
I often write about the things married couples need to do to strengthen their relationship with each other. But this list is going to be a bit different. Sadly, most married couples arent doing everything on this list. Making these a priority could have a massive impact, especially for couples who have children.
A common issue for many couples that results in frustration and disharmony is missing the beat with your sex drive. One wants it more than the other creating a sense of rejection and loneliness every time a pass is batted away. Then you have the other person who wants it less and now feels like its a chore or marital duty.
Some of us are tempted by sexual immorality, others by food or drink, and others by the desire to be rich. We all have desires that wage war within us that become needs and rule our hearts.
Toxic people can do major damage to your marriage. The whole person isn’t toxic. But, their behavior is toxic or your relationship with the person is toxic.
Years ago, our church discovered that many married couples are uncomfortable talking about sexual intimacy. Since the bedroom is a barometer of marital communication, we set out to help couples with conversation more than technique.
When I speak on marriage, I’m always asked if I intentionally taught my kids about marriage. The answer is yes and, no.
Making big decisions as a couple in ministry is risky. Precarious. Scary. Assuming both husband and wife are pursuing intimacy with God, the most important thing we have learned in making big decisions is the idea of agreement.
Often, I don’t want things for my wife and kids as much as I want things from my wife and kids. And there is a huge difference. If we do chores around the house because we want something for our spouse, that’s different. We’re not doing it because we want to feel validated; we’re doing it because we want something FOR them.
A couple of months ago, my husband and I were able to take a four-night getaway as a delayed anniversary celebration. In an unexpected stroke of luck, my sister and her husband were able to join us at the last minute. It was the first time they had the chance to get away for more than one night in years.
Nothing draws your spouse to you more than acceptance—especially accepting the things they have a hard time accepting about themselves. What is that thing in your spouse that you admire but they don’t? Let them know it.
Have you ever wondered what’s the most important shape in marriage? Probably not before you read the sentence above.
Before marriage, romance often seems easy. Without kids, financial pressures and annoying habits, keeping the spark alive feels effortless. But after marriage, spouses often stop dating and take one another for granted.