When Microwaves Marry Crockpots

I’m not sure who said it first, but when I heard this statement years ago, I agreed whole-heartedly: “Sexually, men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots.” Meaning, men are typically ready for sex almost immediately upon hearing the idea. Women enjoy sex, it just takes them a while to warm up to the idea.
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5 Ways To Improve How You Communicate and Resolve Conflict

For obvious reasons, pretty much every single one of us struggles in how to best communicate and resolve conflict. This plays out in marriage, friendships, work relationships, community, and parenting.
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4 Things That Marriage Cannot Fix

Literally speaking, I live with a handyman. So things do get fixed more than they used to. And living with my best friend has been of the most meaningful gifts I’'ve known. But there are just some things he can'’t, and our marriage can'’t, fix.
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Saving Yourself From Social Media

Social media can also be a detriment for some marriages. In most cases, the constant phone checking can distract us from healthy conversations with our spouse. At worst, it can actually lead to relational temptation and even infidelity.
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7 Keys to Great Sex (When You Don’t Like Your Body)

We ALL have some level of insecurity. Even “picture perfect” models often struggle with body issues. Being in perfect physical shape isn’t the solution (although better overall health can be a positive factor), the real issues are deeper than the surface.
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When Microwaves Marry Crockpots

I’m not sure who said it first, but when I heard this statement years ago, I agreed whole-heartedly: “Sexually, men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots.” Meaning, men are typically ready for sex almost immediately upon hearing the idea. Women enjoy sex, it just takes them a while to warm up to the idea.

4 Things That Marriage Cannot Fix

Literally speaking, I live with a handyman. So things do get fixed more than they used to. And living with my best friend has been of the most meaningful gifts I’’ve known. But there are just some things he can’’t, and our marriage can’’t, fix.

Saving Yourself From Social Media

Social media can also be a detriment for some marriages. In most cases, the constant phone checking can distract us from healthy conversations with our spouse. At worst, it can actually lead to relational temptation and even infidelity.

7 Keys to Great Sex (When You Don’t Like Your Body)

We ALL have some level of insecurity. Even “picture perfect” models often struggle with body issues. Being in perfect physical shape isn’t the solution (although better overall health can be a positive factor), the real issues are deeper than the surface.

7 Creative Tips for A Better Marriage

My wife and I have been married for 14 years and in that time, we’’ve learned a lot about what it takes to be married. It’s easier than everyone says it is. Here are seven things we’ve done that have made our marriage work really well—and helped us have a lot of fun.

Why Needing to Win is Killing Your Relationship

Through time I’ve come to realize it’s not just about what you say but also how you say it. And in a marriage or dating relationship, I’ve realized the mentality of needing to win is poison. It can and will destroy any relationship.

25 Passionate Texts to Send to Your Spouse

Texting is a very practical way to flirt with your spouse as well. Just because we’re married, doesn’t mean we should stop flirting with each other. Send the text when they’re at work, out with friends, at the gym, or sitting next to you on the couch!

The Ultimate Enemy of Intimacy

True intimacy involves an exchange. Someone offers vulnerability, and the other honors that vulnerability. Then the other person reciprocates that vulnerability, creating a beautiful cycle. And that bond is exclusive and hidden; it’s only for the two people to behold and be a part of.

Protecting Your Spouse From You

We can get so comfortable with our family that we let down our guards to be who we want to be. It’s easier that way. But it’s not always better that way. There is a way that is better, every single time. The number one person you need to protect your spouse from is you.

3 Last-Minute Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Men

Not that long ago, men didn’t have to think about what to do for Valentine’s Day. We knew what we were supposed to do. We bought a card, candy, and flowers. Those gifts were as certain as putting up a tree at Christmas—it’s just what you do for that holiday. For many of us, being a Valentine’s generalist is no longer enough.

Every Marriage is a Story

There are a lot of marriage statistics out there. Stats are great for providing a big picture context. But they can also misrepresent marriages. Because each individual marriage is more than just another number. Every marriage is unique. Every marriage is a story.

5 Things Every Couple Should Do (But Most Don’t)

I often write about the things married couples need to do to strengthen their relationship with each other. But this list is going to be a bit different. Sadly, most married couples aren’t doing everything on this list. Making these a priority could have a massive impact, especially for couples who have children.

What to Do When You Have Different Sex Drives

A common issue for many couples that results in frustration and disharmony is missing the beat with your sex drive. One wants it more than the other creating a sense of rejection and loneliness every time a pass is batted away. Then you have the other person who wants it less and now feels like its a chore or marital duty.

9 Ways to Avoid Sexual Temptation

Some of us are tempted by sexual immorality, others by food or drink, and others by the desire to be rich. We all have desires that wage war within us that become needs and rule our hearts.