Problems in marriage present themselves like spiders. You feel their effects—their webs—but you can’t always pinpoint the source. You feel like something’s wrong, but you don’t know the cause or root of the problem.
We can get so comfortable with our family that we let down our guards to be who we want to be. It’s easier that way. But it’s not always better that way. There is a way that is better, every single time. The number one person you need to protect your spouse from is you.
There are a lot of marriage statistics out there. Stats are great for providing a big picture context. But they can also misrepresent marriages. Because each individual marriage is more than just another number. Every marriage is unique. Every marriage is a story.
Toxic people can do major damage to your marriage. The whole person isn’t toxic. But, their behavior is toxic or your relationship with the person is toxic.
Often, I don’t want things for my wife and kids as much as I want things from my wife and kids. And there is a huge difference. If we do chores around the house because we want something for our spouse, that’s different. We’re not doing it because we want to feel validated; we’re doing it because we want something FOR them.
I’ve thought of at least four potential dangers or fears for those of us who are married to a low maintenance spouse. I don’t want to be the guy who takes his wife for granted.