Some years back, I was in the midst of a “discussion” with my wife when I realized I was using the same techniques I’d taught a team of support reps earlier that day. In that moment, I learned a life lesson that has since altered my business and my marriage.
Life is busy. We used to think that the next season of life would be less hectic, less stressful, less busy than our current season. Life doesn’t seem to get less busy with time; it only picks up steam. It is easy to go days, weeks and even months without intentionally connecting with your husband or wife.
If we want a happy husband (and a happy marriage) we have to learn how to address things in a way that doesn’t cause that regular, unseen, punch-in-the-gut feeling to our man. Based on my research, there are two clear steps you can use to determine whether or not you should speak up, and how.
Words are life in a healthy relationship. Some of the most important words in any relationship are kind and encouraging words in the form of compliments. In my work as a marriage coach I’ve discovered that not everyone understands how to give and receive compliments. There’s a bit of an art to giving and receiving compliments.
For obvious reasons, pretty much every single one of us struggles in how to best communicate and resolve conflict. This plays out in marriage, friendships, work relationships, community, and parenting.
Social media can also be a detriment for some marriages. In most cases, the constant phone checking can distract us from healthy conversations with our spouse. At worst, it can actually lead to relational temptation and even infidelity.