by Casey Caston

I recently was talking with a friend who was telling me all the things her husband does that turns her off. Bodily noises made the list, but so did his lack of enthusiasm and desire towards her. She explained that she feels like a means to an end, rather than his lover and best friend.

I then asked her if she has ever shared these things with him and she immediately blushed and said, “Absolutely not. But I guess I should give it a try, huh?”

She texted me yesterday and said that the conversation went better than she planned and they both felt more connected afterwards. She thanked me for the gentle push I gave her and that got me thinking, how many of us really tell our spouse what we want and what we don’t want in the bedroom?

So, if you’re courageous and want to have open and honest communication with your spouse about your sex life, here are some good questions to ask each other:

• What are your turn offs?
• How affectionate would you like me to be with you?
• What kind of physical touch best says “I love you”?
• How can we make our sex life better?

Casey and Meygan Caston are the founders of Marriage365. Reposted with permission.