Most of us think that the quality of our marriage depends solely on our relationship with our spouse. And this is logical, because this is true for most of us.
The condition of our marriage tends to go up and down depending on how well that we’re managing our marriage. Obviously, the dynamics between the two of you are important.
But there’s another relationship that matters even more—your individual relationship with God. And quite simply, connection with God makes us better spouses.
Things come out of us that even surprise us. Things come out of us that surprise our spouse. What are those things? What happens when we love God first and our spouse second?
Galatians 5:22-23 contains a list of the fruit we bear in our lives when we love God first. These are called the fruit of the spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
Those things describe the spouse that most of us want to be. And spending time with God, just like you’re doing right now at this moment. . . well done, by the way. . . changes something inside of you that radically impacts what comes out of you.
Putting God first allows you to love your spouse in a way that you could never ever love them on your own. And that helps you to become your best us.