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Ever find yourself saying, “If I could fix this or overcome that, my marriage would be better”? And yet, we keep coming back to the same mistakes! Join us as we talk with Carlos Whitaker about how to overcome some of these reoccurring things that impact marriages.

Carlos Whitaker is a people’s choice award winner, a former recording artist signed to a major label, a social media maven, and currently spends the majority of his time writing books and speaking on stages around the world. He recently released his book Kill the Spider, which you can find at KillTheSpider.com.

Carlos Whitaker Interview

Kill the Spider is based off a story that my father told me – it was about when he was preaching his first revival in Panama. The first night of the revival, during the invitation, an older lady came forward and asked him to pray that the Lord would clean the cobwebs from her life. She came back the next night asking for the same thing. The third night she came back and my dad told her “tonight, we pray that He kills the spider that’s producing those cobwebs.”

The book is my journey past my cobwebs to my spider(s) and then my journey to kill my spider. And I’m seeing this book bring so much freedom to people who are chasing their tail and medicating their behaviors. It’s about finding the lies behind the behavior and getting rid of them. Here’s the outline to that process:

  • Identify your spider – This can be three quarters of the work!
  • Locate your spider – where was it given birth?
  • Corner the spider – with the Word of God and prayer
  • Kill the spider – take a dagger to the heart of it by confessing, rejecting, and renouncing the lie and then replacing with God’s truth.

The spiders don’t have to be huge! They could be small things that sneak up in daily life.

Your one simple thing for this week: Go to killthespider.com and buy the book.  

Let’s talk about our spiders.

CJ: My reoccurring issue is when I stay too late at work and am late getting home to Teri. The payoff to staying late is that you get ahead, get more done – which makes me feel like I’m proving myself. The cobweb is that I’m not giving Teri my best hours. The spider is that I put value on the public approval of performing at work.

Afton: My takeaway from this is that I want to go home and ask Hudson what he thinks my spiders are.

Thanks for joining us for the Married People Podcast! We hope today’s episode helped you realize that marriage is a little easier than you may think. We hope you’ll subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and leave a review – they help us make the podcast better.

If you want more resources, check out Your Best Us and our blog at MarriedPeople.org.  You can find more from Carlos at KillTheSpider.com and on his podcast Enter Wild.