Life is busy. Trish and I used to think that the next season of life would be less hectic, less stressful, less busy than our current season. Life doesn’t seem to get less busy with time; it only picks up steam.
It is easy to go days, weeks and even months without intentionally connecting with your husband or wife. You live in the same house, but stop sharing life together. It’s gradual. It’s incremental. It happens to the best of marriages.
What if you could help your marriage be more about relationship and less about business? Its easy to know our spouses schedule and forget about their heart. These six questions will recalibrate your marriage.
1. How can I serve you this week?
You want to capture the heart of your spouse, ask this question on Sunday night. It’s easy to focus on our to-do list. We have plans; we have deadlines; we have obligations.
But we open up a new level of intimacy in our marriage when we ask our spouse how we can place their needs ahead of our own.
2. What has you stressed or anxious?
Is there a question that communicates care and concern more than this question? When you ask this question, you are inviting your spouse to be vulnerable with you. You are also communicating to them, Youre not alone. Im in this with you.
3. What is the most important thing you need to accomplish this week?
Unspoken expectations are always unmet expectations. Most of the conflict we experience in marriage derive from unmet expectations. If you know what your spouse needs to get done in a given week, you can be an ally for them in that process. I always appreciate when Trish asks me this question. It lets me know that she is interested in the details of my week.
4. What can we do to grow closer to God this week?
Busyness is often the biggest obstacle to intimacy with God. When my life gets busy, the first thing I give up is time with God. It is sad, but true. As a husband and wife grow closer to God, they grow closer to one another. Maybe there are spiritual connections youre not making with one another simply because youre not asking this question.
5. What are we doing on our next date night?
If you dont plan a date night then you probably wont have a date night. For us, Fridays are days we have off and our kids are in school. On Thursday, one of us will ask, What do you want to do tomorrow? It helps us be intentional about making one another a priority.
6. How can I pray for you?
Our prayers are the most intimate conversations we have. We share parts of our heart with God that we dont share with anyone else.
When we invite our spouse into this part of our lives, we exponentially grow the intimacy level of our relationship.
So often we think its something BIG that will give us a great marriage. The truth is, it is a few small things that will make a HUGE difference. Take 30 minutes, ask your spouse these questions and see if you dont see a few changes in your marriage this week.
What questions would you add to the list?
Reposted with permission. Read the original post here.
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