We have a very special guest for this episode—Ted’s wife, Nancie. Together they have three kids who are 18, 15 and 12, so they know something about this topic!
The Tension: Parenting can be very challenging to a marriage
Why is parenting so tough on marriage?
Ted: We bring in our family of origin – we saw parenting done differently and bring in a lot of dynamics based on how we were raised.
Nancie: Every morning you wake up realizing again that you don’t know what you’re doing. It’s always more decisions to be made – you’re never done.
How do you protect your marriage in the midst of all the intensity? For example, when you’ve had to deal with a situation with your kids, the climate in the house changes. How do you guard your marriage?
The good news is we don’t have to throw our hands up and say, “it is what it is”. There are a few things we’ve applied that we think can help people with this.
- Have mutual respect for each other – submit to each other out of reverence for Christ and respect what the other brings to the table. Have your spouses’ back and approach situations together.
- Make time to talk. There has to be time together that’s not right off an incident. When you take a few minutes a day to talk about the kids and situations you have going on, it can leave space for you to spend time together later.
- Spend time together. This is how you keep your marriage from revolving around your kids. This is just mom & dad time – date nights, working out together, etc.
Your one simple thing for this week: If you see something, say something! Watch for opportunities to tell your spouse when they’re doing a great job.
This is a simple thing that can make a huge difference in their day!
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