Maybe this is just a southern saying, but I’ve heard it all my life—“I can say what I want to about my family, but you better not.”
To some degree, I get this saying. We are being protective of our family. I like that. We feel like we have a level of closeness with our family that gives us the right to be more open and honest. We can even speak hard truths when we need to.
But this statement breaks down because on one level it is saying: “I protect my family members from others’ hurtful words, just not from mine.”
3 Steps To Follow
We can get so comfortable with our family that we let down our guards to be who we want to be. It’s easier that way. But it’s not always better that way.
There is a way that is better, every single time. While many of us grew up on the following verse, please don’t miss it:
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19-20
- Step 1: Quick to listen
- Step 2: Slow to speak
- Step 3: Slow to become angry
I’m fully convinced many a married couple would still be together and would have the marriage they wanted is their actions and words were ran through these steps.
While these steps are easy to understand, there is something in many of us that makes it difficult to live them out. This especially true when we hungry, angry, lonely or tired—when our guard is down.
Guard Your Tongue
When it comes to our words, our guard should always be up, ready to protect our spouse from what can be too easily, comfortably, and destructibility said.
I think the number one person you need to protect your spouse from is you. I think the number one person I need to protect Nancie from is me. Nobody has more power to bring verbal death or life to our spouse that us.
Stand tall spouses. Stand in front of your mouth and say, “No one can say what they want to about my family, especially me.” There now that’s a statement we can all live by.
How do you protect your spouse from yourself?
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