We all know what it feels like to lose perspective—we get caught up in the little problems in our day-to-day life and marriage. The laundry isn’t folded, your spouse is late getting the kids or getting home from work, etc. One helpful tool could help change that—this podcast is based off a post on our blog called 3 One-Liners That Make a Huge Difference in Our Marriage.
The Tension: It’s easy to get wrapped up in negative perspectives of life and marriage.
Afton: I’m a 1 on the Enneagram and I see the world through a lens of everything could be better. So I always think that things in marriage could be better or more perfect.
CJ: I tend to think that I could always do more in a day. I get into a rut – I get tunnel vision where I’m tempted to just work and work.
Truth: Perspective is everything.
Ted: Nancie and I have these three one-liners that have made a big impact on our marriage:
- We have rich people problems.
This one came up when we caught ourselves complaining about things that really aren’t big issues – like not being able to get wifi in the bonus room.
It sounds like a very serious statement, but I’ve found it to be lighter than it sounds. It reminds us to keep things in perspective.
- Do you want me to fix it or feel it?
This one changed everything for us. Early in our marriage, Nancie would share something and I would instantly try to fix it, which would put her in defense mode. I’ve learned to ask this question, and she has started stating up front what she needs. It’s made a huge impact.
- We know tragedy and this isn’t it.
We’ve had loss in our family, and my dad used to say this to me when I was young. It can be easy to lose perspective and make things bigger than they are. But if you have perspective, it can help reduce conflict.
Your one simple thing for this week: Choose one one-liner and talk about it with your spouse.
These one-liners are great for you to use personally. But if you talk to your spouse about them, they can really impact your marriage.
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