True intimacy involves an exchange. Someone offers vulnerability, and the other honors that vulnerability. Then the other person reciprocates that vulnerability, creating a beautiful cycle. And that bond is exclusive and hidden; it’s only for the two people to behold and be a part of.
Not that long ago, men didn’t have to think about what to do for Valentine’s Day. We knew what we were supposed to do. We bought a card, candy, and flowers. Those gifts were as certain as putting up a tree at Christmas—it’s just what you do for that holiday. For many of us, being a Valentine’s generalist is no longer enough.
A common issue for many couples that results in frustration and disharmony is missing the beat with your sex drive. One wants it more than the other creating a sense of rejection and loneliness every time a pass is batted away. Then you have the other person who wants it less and now feels like its a chore or marital duty.
Some of us are tempted by sexual immorality, others by food or drink, and others by the desire to be rich. We all have desires that wage war within us that become needs and rule our hearts.
Years ago, our church discovered that many married couples are uncomfortable talking about sexual intimacy. Since the bedroom is a barometer of marital communication, we set out to help couples with conversation more than technique.
Before marriage, romance often seems easy. Without kids, financial pressures and annoying habits, keeping the spark alive feels effortless. But after marriage, spouses often stop dating and take one another for granted.