When we get married, we aren’t just marrying our spouse. That’s because our spouse usually has a family of their own—parents, siblings, grandparents, and cousins. When we get married, we become a part of that family.
In the summer of 2017, I made one of my boldest decisions yet. I committed myself in holy matrimony to the most beautiful woman I have ever known. My heart was happier than ever before. I couldn’t have been more sure. And yet, the Millennial inside of me was wondering what on earth I was doing. Here are some of the things I’ve learned six months into marriage as a Millennial. I think they’ll be helpful for others going into marriage as well.
Statistically speaking, married people in the U.S. expect their marriage to do a lot for them individually. We believe marriage should meet most of our relational needs. However, this perspective is a huge problem.
In his book Blueprint for Life, Mike Kendrick writes, All of us have struggled at times with negative thoughts, either from learned patterns in our relationships or from distorted perspectives we’ve picked up along the way. You’ve probably noticed that you cant really change your behavior without changing your thoughts.
Literally speaking, I live with a handyman. So things do get fixed more than they used to. And living with my best friend has been of the most meaningful gifts I’ve known. But there are just some things he can’t, and our marriage can’t, fix.
My wife and I have been married for 14 years and in that time, we’ve learned a lot about what it takes to be married. Its easier than everyone says it is. Here are seven things weve done that have made our marriage work really welland helped us have a lot of fun.