When we get married, we aren’t just marrying our spouse. That’s because our spouse usually has a family of their own—parents, siblings, grandparents, and cousins. When we get married, we become a part of that family.
Statistically speaking, married people in the U.S. expect their marriage to do a lot for them individually. We believe marriage should meet most of our relational needs. However, this perspective is a huge problem.
Literally speaking, I live with a handyman. So things do get fixed more than they used to. And living with my best friend has been of the most meaningful gifts I’ve known. But there are just some things he can’t, and our marriage can’t, fix.
My wife and I have been married for 14 years and in that time, we’ve learned a lot about what it takes to be married. Its easier than everyone says it is. Here are seven things weve done that have made our marriage work really welland helped us have a lot of fun.
I often write about the things married couples need to do to strengthen their relationship with each other. But this list is going to be a bit different. Sadly, most married couples arent doing everything on this list. Making these a priority could have a massive impact, especially for couples who have children.
When I ask people what it takes to have a great marriage, they mostly say one of two things: hard work or good communication. The problem with hard work is that most people work hard at work, and when they get home, they don’t want to work anymore.