When Your Spouse Is a Survivor of Sexual Abuse

It can come as a complete shock to learn that your spouse is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Your first reaction will probably be to wonder why she didn’t tell you about it a long time ago. But what you need to understand is how personal, private, and petrifying this secret is to a survivor.
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We're planning future resources for MarriedPeople and we need your help. We want to hear from you want kind of resources you'd like to see us create. Because we want to make stuff that's relevant and useful to you.
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3 Types of Margin You Absolutely Need in Your Marriage

Things never go as planned. I have an idea of where I’d like my days to go, but the only predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. The vast majority of my life feels like I’m just along for the ride and the driver could care less where I think we should go. Why is life so hard to plan perfectly? Because things happen which we cannot control.
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10 Reasons Not To Date Your Spouse

We can always think of excuses for why we shouldn't date our spouse. But marriages that live with no sense of urgency in their passion and commitment to continuing to date one another or improve their relationship …will eventually dry up.
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A 7-Day Love Experiment For Your Marriage

Does the word marriage have too much baggage? It's a word that means different things to different people. So what if we did an experiment for one week to use a word instead of marriage and see if it changes our perspective for the better.
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Turn Offs

by Casey Caston I recently was talking with a friend who was telling me all the things her husband does that turns her off. Bodily noises made the list, but so did his lack of enthusiasm and desire towards her. She explained that she feels like a means to an end,...

10 Ways to Get Rid of Stress

by Casey and Meygan Caston Stress affects every area of our lives. Have you ever been around someone who has hit their limit? They’re no happy camper. We’ve had our share of bad days from overloaded schedules, to kids constantly fighting with each other, to finding...

3 Ways to Say Yes to Dating When Your Life Is Saying No

by Payden Montgomery We have a four-month-old, own our own business, and both work full-time jobs. I work outside the home and my husband has a schedule that requires him to be out of the house most mornings by 5:30 a.m. He doesn'’t even get home until around 7:30...

Panic Monster: How to Help Your Spouse When Anxiety Hits

by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott Anxiety. Most of us have been there: an issue that—–to the outside world–—seems arguably small, balloons into a crushing, suffocating weight. Our hearts race. Our palms sweat. We descend into a spiraling panic, and find that it’'s...

The Best Thing for Your Kids is for You to Leave

by Ted Lowe The best thing for your kids is for you to leave . . . for the night . . . with your spouse. We all love our kids and want what's best for them. We sign them up for activities and sports, which is good. We want them to have time with friends, which is...

21 Date Ideas

by Casey and Meygan Caston We fight when we don’t spend quality time together. I mean at each others’ throats, easily irritated and constantly nit picking each other for days on end. We thrive when we are together, in a place where we can connect and be intimate. It...

6 Ways a Woman Can Make Valentine’s Day Last All Year

by Jenn Murff This weekend marks the eleventh Valentine'’s day with my special Valentine . . . a.k.a., my main squeeze, my hubby, my love. It has been a CRAZY ride——4 kids, over 10 moves, 4 major career changes, not to mention the small “barista” type jobs along the...

The Should Monster

by Selena Frederick I don'’t really like the word “should,” especially when it comes to marriage. That'’s probably because I use it regularly. And whenever I get a case of the “should,” I always feel like I'’m not measuring up in one way or another. I’m left feeling...

Your Husband’s Greatest Fear

by Justin Davis There is a universal fear that every husband has. This fear keeps us up at night and wakes us up in the morning. It isn'’t talked about much because we don'’t like admitting we'’re afraid. Being afraid, we believe, makes us less of a man. Most of us...

The Man’s Guide to Making Valentine’s Day Last All Year

by Justin Murff Our romantic pre-Valentine’'s dinner consisted of an expertly prepared steak, served on the finest of paper china, and serenaded by the sound of laughing children and the soundtrack of The Land Before Time 14. OK, it was a far cry from the romantic,...

3 Shows Every Married Couple Should Watch Together

by Dave Willis I'’ve always believed that one of best things we can do for our marriage and families is to watch LESS television, BUT I also believe that watching the right shows can actually have a positive impact on us. I think every couple could benefit from...

2 Words We Often Need to Hear

by Consuela Parsons There are lots of things I strive for in life . . . Raise healthy kids Have a strong marriage Continuously grow in my faith and my relationship with God Create friendships Be a person who makes my community a better place to live Show others love...

4 Signs You’re Not a Nice Person

by Dave Willis One of my favorite comedians is Jeff Foxworthy. His "“You might be a redneck if . . ."…” jokes hit close to home because I grew up in Kentucky (home of many proud rednecks). We can all laugh at stuff like, "“If you walk your kid to elementary school...

Why You Need a Marriage Mentor

by Casey and Meygan Caston There we stood in our third year of marriage . . . more like enemies than lovers. It seemed the odds were stacked against us. We came from broken families, buried ourselves in over $200K of debt, are the MOST stubborn people you'’ve ever...

The Spectrum of Sex

by Ryan Frederick Regular and consistent sex is extremely important for a healthy marriage. But life gets busy, disconnection happens, and sometimes sex is burdensome. All of these things can lead to a lack of intimacy and a decrease in sexual satisfaction. If...

Tom Hanks and Why Your Husband Teared Up

by Shaunti Feldhahn A woman came up to me after a talk about gender differences and asked, “My husband and I were watching that new Tom Hanks movie, Bridge of Spies, and near the end I looked over and my husband was crying! I mean, it'’s great that Tom Hanks saved the...

How to Protect Your Marriage From Parenting

by Ted Lowe For many, parenting can be tough on a marriage. For around 30 years, researchers have studied how having children affects a marriage, and the results are conclusive: the relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along. And why shouldn'’t it? We...