Why Needing to Win is Killing Your Relationship

Through time I’ve come to realize it’s not just about what you say but also how you say it. And in a marriage or dating relationship, I’ve realized the mentality of needing to win is poison. It can and will destroy any relationship.
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3 Ground Rules for Experiencing Real Honesty with Your Spouse

Problems in marriage present themselves like spiders. You feel their effects—their webs—but you can’t always pinpoint the source. You feel like something’s wrong, but you don’t know the cause or root of the problem.
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25 Passionate Texts to Send to Your Spouse

Texting is a very practical way to flirt with your spouse as well. Just because we’re married, doesn’t mean we should stop flirting with each other. Send the text when they’re at work, out with friends, at the gym, or sitting next to you on the couch!
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The Ultimate Enemy of Intimacy

True intimacy involves an exchange. Someone offers vulnerability, and the other honors that vulnerability. Then the other person reciprocates that vulnerability, creating a beautiful cycle. And that bond is exclusive and hidden; it’s only for the two people to behold and be a part of.
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Protecting Your Spouse From You

We can get so comfortable with our family that we let down our guards to be who we want to be. It’s easier that way. But it’s not always better that way. There is a way that is better, every single time. The number one person you need to protect your spouse from is you.
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Spiritual Leader

As a 21st Century man, I have many roles. I don’'t live in a world where a man comes home after a long day at work, sits on the couch and everyone scatters to serve him. I'’ve never lived in that world, I’'ve only seen it on TV. Most of the guys I know come home and...

Reaching “The Bar” Within Marriage

by Amy Martin When I was a little girl, I used to dream of getting married someday—as I'’m sure many young girls do. I would dream about marrying a man that had all the best qualities imaginable, and then some. Now, I can'’t vouch for men, but I imagine as young boys...

Sleep On It

by Shaunti Feldhahn Dear Shaunti, I’m about to pull my very tired hair out. My wife and I know we shouldn’t go to bed angry, but our arguments only get worse the later they go. I love my wife, but I truly can’t think straight after 11pm. Last night, I got so angry I...

10 Quick Tips on Dealing with In-Laws

by Casey Caston When you married your spouse, you married their parents . . . like it or not. And if you plan on going the distance in marriage, which we hope you will, they are in your lives forever too. We’ve heard reports of families with healthy relationships on...

Does God Really Love You?

by Joshua Straub A few years ago, I traveled to speak at a marriage conference in Texas. My wife, Christi, who was then in the middle of a 14-week stint of all-day sickness from her pregnancy, was unable to travel with me. So she stayed home with our then 18-month-old...

What Towels Have to Do With Sex

by John McGee A couple of years ago, I was late to a meeting and rushing out of the house when my wife said, "“I have some thoughts about our sex life.”" Suddenly I wasn'’t in such a rush! When I asked about her “thoughts”, she laughed as she said, “"Well, really...

Placing Your Spouse in the Front Seat

by Ron L. Deal God's design for the family begins with marriage laying the foundation for the home. But stepfamilies are at a disadvantage. Why? Because sometimes at the inception of a stepfamily, married couples find it difficult to establish their relationship as...

Married to a Grumpy Guy?

by Shaunti Feldhahn Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type of guy people look to for advice, and he goes over and above his requirements on the job. But he is often grumpy and withdrawn at home. He gets upset at the littlest...

Just Take My Hand

by Ted Lowe When it comes to spending time with God in the morning, I do it. Not so much because I'’m so disciplined. I do it because I have to. If I don'’t spend time with God for a few days, I quickly become a mess. I get overwhelmed easily. I say things I regret. I...

How To Kiss Like You Mean It

by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips. Proverbs 24:26 At a church near our home in Seattle, a Japanese couple that had recently arrived in the States, was getting married. Despite their limited exposure to western customs, the...

3 One Liners That Make a Huge Difference in Our Marriage

by Ted Lowe When I ask people what it takes to have a great marriage, they mostly say one of two things: hard work or good communication. The problem with hard work is that most people work hard at work, and when they get home, they don’'t want to work anymore. Plus,...

The “15 Second Kiss” Experiment

By Ryan Frederick A few weeks back, I met a gentleman at church named Tim. Tim and his wife had been married many years (I can'’t remember exactly, but it was at least 30) and weathered many trials through their marriage (cancer included). Naturally I asked him what...

Let’s Talk About Sex

by Scott Kedersha After I graduated from Dallas Theological Seminary, I went back to audit a one-week class on sexual intimacy. One of the first components of the class was an exercise I will never forget. Ten large papers hung on the wall in the front of the class....

When Your Spouse Disappoints You (Part 2 of 2)

by Dave Willis In our last post, we discussed five things to do when your spouse disappoints you. Here are more things to do when your spouse disappoints you, hurts your feelings or breaks your trust (or when YOU disappoint your spouse). #6 could change the climate of...

When Your Spouse Disappoints You (Part 1 of 2)

by Dave Willis The Bible famously says “Love never fails,” (1 Corinthians 13:8), BUT the problem is that the people we love DO fail (and so do we). No marriage is perfect, because no person is perfect. If you’ve been married longer than a few days, I’m confident that...

Why I Got Mad at My Wife and You Do Too

by Jeremy Isaacs The other night my wife Corrie was doing laundry and discovered something that had a stain on it. After searching the laundry room she discovered that she didn’t have what she needed to properly treat the stain. So she asked me to go to the grocery...

Once the Spark Is Gone

by Carey Nieuwhof Falling in love is an emotional process. You feel things you've never felt before. There's an incredible rush of emotions—a feeling of well being, excitement, exhilaration, contentment, and more. But a surprising number of people who fall in love...