When I speak on marriage, I’m always asked if I intentionally taught my kids about marriage. The answer is yes and, no.
Making big decisions as a couple in ministry is risky. Precarious. Scary. Assuming both husband and wife are pursuing intimacy with God, the most important thing we have learned in making big decisions is the idea of agreement.
Often, I don’t want things for my wife and kids as much as I want things from my wife and kids. And there is a huge difference. If we do chores around the house because we want something for our spouse, that’s different. We’re not doing it because we want to feel validated; we’re doing it because we want something FOR them.
A couple of months ago, my husband and I were able to take a four-night getaway as a delayed anniversary celebration. In an unexpected stroke of luck, my sister and her husband were able to join us at the last minute. It was the first time they had the chance to get away for more than one night in years.
Nothing draws your spouse to you more than acceptance—especially accepting the things they have a hard time accepting about themselves. What is that thing in your spouse that you admire but they don’t? Let them know it.
Have you ever wondered what’s the most important shape in marriage? Probably not before you read the sentence above.
Before marriage, romance often seems easy. Without kids, financial pressures and annoying habits, keeping the spark alive feels effortless. But after marriage, spouses often stop dating and take one another for granted.
Ladies, be curious about your husband. Ditch the obligatory “How was your day?” and replace it with unique, thought provoking, open-ended questions.
Yes, the idea is scary for many women! But in my years of social research, I have uncovered many truths that men wish we knew, but they don’t know how to tell us. And, I heard the heart behind this wish – and discovered five surprising reasons to take the risk. When...
My marriage is a priority. I love my wife with all my heart and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with her. She is always on my mind and I tell her I love her every day. In my head, all is well in our marriage and I imagine that she feels the same and knows the high level of priority that I place on her and our marriage.
I’ve thought of at least four potential dangers or fears for those of us who are married to a low maintenance spouse. I don’t want to be the guy who takes his wife for granted.
Have you been there before? A fight in public, or maybe in front of family or friends in someone else’s home? We have . . . dozens of times. It makes you feel frustrated and restricted because you can’t completely lose it in front of others even though you feel like you want to pull your hair out and kill your spouse. It can also make the people around you feel very awkward and nervous.
Our wives want to see that we show interest in who they are, their struggles, their dreams, their friends. But we can’t expect them to pour out their heart without our participation.
You might feel a little guilty at the thought of taking a kid-free adventure together, but trust us–it’s healthy for your marriage, for the two of you as individuals, and for your kids, too!
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by Crystal Chiang The audience was on their feet. There was celebration. Trumpets. Confetti. The crowd went wild. Okay, none of that happened. But thats how it felt the first time my husband and I stepped out of an IKEA store and realized that we had made it through...