When Your Spouse Is a Survivor of Sexual Abuse

It can come as a complete shock to learn that your spouse is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Your first reaction will probably be to wonder why she didn’t tell you about it a long time ago. But what you need to understand is how personal, private, and petrifying this secret is to a survivor. There is never a good time to say something like, “Hey, I’ve been meaning to tell you that I was raped when I was nine” or “It’s about time I told you that my father molested me for about seven years of my childhood.” That’s just something it’s never easy to say.
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3 Types of Margin You Absolutely Need in Your Marriage

Things never go as planned. I have an idea of where I’d like my days to go, but the only predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. The vast majority of my life feels like I’m just along for the ride and the driver could care less where I think we should go. Why is life so hard to plan perfectly? Because things happen which we cannot control.
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10 Reasons Not To Date Your Spouse

We can always think of excuses for why we shouldn't date our spouse. But marriages that live with no sense of urgency in their passion and commitment to continuing to date one another or improve their relationship …will eventually dry up.
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A 7-Day Love Experiment For Your Marriage

Does the word marriage have too much baggage? It's a word that means different things to different people. So what if we did an experiment for one week to use a word instead of marriage and see if it changes our perspective for the better.
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25 Passionate Texts to Send to Your Spouse

Texting is a very practical way to flirt with your spouse as well. Just because we’re married, doesn’t mean we should stop flirting with each other. Send the text when they’re at work, out with friends, at the gym, or sitting next to you on the couch!

The Ultimate Enemy of Intimacy

True intimacy involves an exchange. Someone offers vulnerability, and the other honors that vulnerability. Then the other person reciprocates that vulnerability, creating a beautiful cycle. And that bond is exclusive and hidden; it’s only for the two people to behold and be a part of.

Protecting Your Spouse From You

We can get so comfortable with our family that we let down our guards to be who we want to be. It’s easier that way. But it’s not always better that way. There is a way that is better, every single time. The number one person you need to protect your spouse from is you.

3 Last-Minute Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Men

Not that long ago, men didn’t have to think about what to do for Valentine’s Day. We knew what we were supposed to do. We bought a card, candy, and flowers. Those gifts were as certain as putting up a tree at Christmas—it’s just what you do for that holiday. For many of us, being a Valentine’s generalist is no longer enough.

Every Marriage is a Story

There are a lot of marriage statistics out there. Stats are great for providing a big picture context. But they can also misrepresent marriages. Because each individual marriage is more than just another number. Every marriage is unique. Every marriage is a story.

5 Things Every Couple Should Do (But Most Don’t)

I often write about the things married couples need to do to strengthen their relationship with each other. But this list is going to be a bit different. Sadly, most married couples aren’t doing everything on this list. Making these a priority could have a massive impact, especially for couples who have children.

What to Do When You Have Different Sex Drives

A common issue for many couples that results in frustration and disharmony is missing the beat with your sex drive. One wants it more than the other creating a sense of rejection and loneliness every time a pass is batted away. Then you have the other person who wants it less and now feels like its a chore or marital duty.

9 Ways to Avoid Sexual Temptation

Some of us are tempted by sexual immorality, others by food or drink, and others by the desire to be rich. We all have desires that wage war within us that become needs and rule our hearts.

25 Questions to Ignite Intimacy This Christmas

Years ago, our church discovered that many married couples are uncomfortable talking about sexual intimacy. Since the bedroom is a barometer of marital communication, we set out to help couples with conversation more than technique.

Switch One Word And Change Your Family Dynamics

Often, I don’t want things for my wife and kids as much as I want things from my wife and kids. And there is a huge difference. If we do chores around the house because we want something for our spouse, that’s different. We’re not doing it because we want to feel validated; we’re doing it because we want something FOR them.

Getting Away to Remember

A couple of months ago, my husband and I were able to take a four-night getaway as a delayed anniversary celebration. In an unexpected stroke of luck, my sister and her husband were able to join us at the last minute. It was the first time they had the chance to get away for more than one night in years.

One Of The Best Gifts My Wife Has Ever Given Me

Nothing draws your spouse to you more than acceptance—especially accepting the things they have a hard time accepting about themselves. What is that thing in your spouse that you admire but they don’t? Let them know it.

5 Ways to Put Romance Back in Your Relationship

Before marriage, romance often seems easy. Without kids, financial pressures and annoying habits, keeping the spark alive feels effortless. But after marriage, spouses often stop dating and take one another for granted.