My experience working with couples buried in the rubble of a broken covenant due to an affair and my work with them as they try to dig out and rebuild a marriage has taught me some of the keys to surviving an affair. If you’re in this same situation, you can survive. I’ve seen it happen more times than I can count.
When you have kids, time seems to always be an issue. There is simply not enough of it , especially when it comes to mommy and daddy getting some alone time. Yes, I am talking about sex. And, yes, we need to be having lots of it , even with kids in the house. Let’s be honest. It’s a lot easier said than done. So, what are we supposed to do?
It’s time to begin reclaiming sex for the glory of God. It’s time to invite Jesus back into the bedroom. It’s time to start the conversations that the church forgot. And to stand up, boldly, as a body of believers, and defend the most intimate act of worship and praise we’re free to know.
In the summer of 2017, I made one of my boldest decisions yet. I committed myself in holy matrimony to the most beautiful woman I have ever known. My heart was happier than ever before. I couldn’t have been more sure. And yet, the Millennial inside of me was wondering what on earth I was doing. Here are some of the things I’ve learned six months into marriage as a Millennial. I think they’ll be helpful for others going into marriage as well.
Statistically speaking, married people in the U.S. expect their marriage to do a lot for them individually. We believe marriage should meet most of our relational needs. However, this perspective is a huge problem.
Words are life in a healthy relationship. Some of the most important words in any relationship are kind and encouraging words in the form of compliments. In my work as a marriage coach I’ve discovered that not everyone understands how to give and receive compliments. There’s a bit of an art to giving and receiving compliments.
In his book Blueprint for Life, Mike Kendrick writes, All of us have struggled at times with negative thoughts, either from learned patterns in our relationships or from distorted perspectives we’ve picked up along the way. You’ve probably noticed that you cant really change your behavior without changing your thoughts.
The sad truth is that while money is a bedrock of stability and happiness in a marriage, many couples find it far easier to discuss topics of faith and politics, and avoid talking about finances altogether. But when you’re married and sharing a life with someone, it’s the everyday things — daily conversations and habits — that can make or break a relationship.
It can come as a complete shock to learn that your spouse is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Your first reaction will probably be to wonder why she didn’t tell you about it a long time ago. But what you need to understand is how personal, private, and petrifying this secret is to a survivor.
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Things never go as planned. I have an idea of where I’d like my days to go, but the only predictable thing about life is that it’s unpredictable. The vast majority of my life feels like I’m just along for the ride and the driver could care less where I think we should go. Why is life so hard to plan perfectly? Because things happen which we cannot control.
We can always think of excuses for why we shouldn’t date our spouse. But marriages that live with no sense of urgency in their passion and commitment to continuing to date one another or improve their relationship will eventually dry up.
Does the word marriage have too much baggage? It’s a word that means different things to different people. So what if we did an experiment for one week to use a word instead of marriage and see if it changes our perspective for the better.
Not only does touch cultivate deeper intimacy; it helps us communicate with each other on another level. It sustains and strengthens our connection. And it’s an essential part of a healthy, happy marriage. Tender touch conveys our love for one another, and creates a level of emotional safety that opens the door for deeper intimacy.
It happened to us, and it may have happened to you. I know that it hurts, but please hear this: you do not have to hurt alone. Your marriage will make it through the pain of this miscarriage. Your spouse is with you. It is imperative that you recognize the weight and necessity of choosing to have naked conversations through this messy circumstance.
When it comes to communication, technology and social media has undergone some revolutionary innovations and developments that make sure you are always connected with your loved ones, anywhere and anytime. There are several different ways you can use technology to strengthen your bond with your better half, and make sure they know you are thinking about them.
Don’t let fear keep you from thinking clearly. You won’t be able to hear when God is telling you to trust Him. When you give your fear to God you’ll be able to appreciate your blessings and live your life the way He intended.
I’m not sure who said it first, but when I heard this statement years ago, I agreed whole-heartedly: “Sexually, men are like microwaves and women are like crockpots.” Meaning, men are typically ready for sex almost immediately upon hearing the idea. Women enjoy sex, it just takes them a while to warm up to the idea.