The fact of the matter is pornography and a distortion of sex is completely destroying us. Christian pastors continue to be found in infidelity, sex scandals, and secret sin. A Christian’s sexual behavior can hardly be distinguished from the non believing person.
Through time I’ve come to realize it’s not just about what you say but also how you say it. And in a marriage or dating relationship, I’ve realized the mentality of needing to win is poison. It can and will destroy any relationship.
True intimacy involves an exchange. Someone offers vulnerability, and the other honors that vulnerability. Then the other person reciprocates that vulnerability, creating a beautiful cycle. And that bond is exclusive and hidden; it’s only for the two people to behold and be a part of.